Sisters by Heart

The most important people in our life are family. I am very close to my brothers and sisters. We love each other because we have the same blood. However, for me, sisters or brothers are not only a relationship by blood but also can be a relationship by heart. I have a close person that I regard her as my sister; even she has great influence in my life. Although we have different blood, we love each other like real sisters. We are not sisters by blood, but sisters by heart.

Three years ago, I started to a new part of my life as a university student in Padang. It was the first time for me to live far away from my family. I lived in a boarding house near the campus. Because my first boarding house is expensive, I moved to another boarding house six months later. After living there for some days, I had become friends with some boarding house mates. It was always easy for me to get close to other people. However, there was a very quiet mate and I realized that it was very hard for me to communicate and get close to her. She is two years older than me. She is really different from other people I had met before.

At the first time, I thought that she was very strange. She only wanted to speak few words, especially with strangers. Then, I tried to find out more about her. I started from asking her roommate first. From her roommate’s explanation, I knew much more about her and I had already known the reasons why she acted like that. One of the reasons is because of her bad relationship with her parents and friends. She was always sad and moody. She also rarely smiled. She often cried. That is why she did not have friends. Then, I challenged myself to get close with her and make some changes for her.

After that, I tried to get close with her. I always try to communicate with her. Few days later, I began feeling that she was happy to know me. It seemed that she began being opened to me. I knew that she was much closed to other people before. She did not want to share with others, especially about her personal problems. I was glad. I felt that we are closer than before. She really cares about me, not only as a friend but also as a sister. She had changed. She always smiled and be happy.

However, after we were close each other, we had some conflicts. We always argued each other. There were many things made us fought. Finally, there was a big problem between us and then, we did not communicate each other anymore for more than three months. I never heard any news about her anymore.

 Four months passed. I tried to get any news about her. I knew that she had changed again to become she was before she knew me, even she become worse than before. Finally, I tried to communicate with her again. At first, she did not give a good response. However, we finally communicate and talk as before until now.

After that, we become closer. I realized that she is not a friend for me but she is an older sister. She likes to give me many suggestions. I didn’t like to accept her suggestions before because I thought that she treated me like a child. However, now I realized that all what she always suggests me are good for myself. She acts like a real older sister for me. She teaches me many things. She always reminds me not to go out at night, to be discipline in praying, to study hard, and many others. It becomes new good habits for me. Actually, I was very lazy to do all what she wants but finally I enjoyed doing them all. She also never forgets to remind me about how hard my parents to get money for their children are. It makes me always realize that I have to finish my study soon. Then, I feel so blessed to regard her as my older sister in my life.

I know that I am totally different from my sister by heart but we always try to understand each other. Besides, we also come from different background of life. Furthermore, the biggest difference is that we are not related by blood. Actually, it is not always easy to make a friend becomes a sister, especially two people with different personalities. It needs a very long process. However, as long as we both always understand each other, we do believe that we will be sisters by heart forever.